There have been times in my life that have been far too difficult to get through without help. When I found myself homeless and 16, I found a wonderful church that helped me find my way. About ten years later, I fell on hard times a second time and knew exactly where to go for help. Since then, I have been a member of that church and have managed to keep out of trouble and maintain a steady and comfortable life. If you are going through any kind of hard time, my blog can help you understand how a church can help you pull through it.
When you have an elderly friend or relative in a nursing home (such as National Church Residences), it's only natural to want to spend quality time with them. Having to find childcare to spend an afternoon at a nursing home may not make sense for your lifestyle, though. If you want to enrich both your child's life and the life of your elderly loved one, why not bring your child along for the bonding experience? Doing so can help all three of you make awesome memories worth cherishing. Here's how you can help your child relate to the elderly person you will be visiting.
Discuss the Person's Life with the Child Beforehand
Talk about the elderly person's life with the child beforehand. You may talk about how the person is older now, but discuss how they were once your child's age. That may surprise very young children. Talk about the older person's life experience in ways that the child may understand. For example, if the person grew up during a time of war, you may talk about that and reference a movie or historical book your child may have read on the topic. The "American Girl" series of stories often feature modern history, so your child may understand that way as well.
Bring Along Games for the Two to Play
Playing games can be fun for people of any age. It's a universal way for human beings to relate to each other. If your child has a hard time being a good sport when they lose a game, you may want to only bring non-competitive games. While the child and elderly person play the game, you may ask both questions about themselves. That can help get a great conversation going.
Emphasize the Importance of Keeping Promises
Just as children take promises very seriously, so do older adults. Make sure that your child knows that they should never make promises that they aren't sure they will be able to keep. For example, discuss the fact that they should never accept an invitation to come back on a specific date without getting permission from you first. That way, the older adult won't be disappointed when a promise is broken.
Finally, keep in mind that your child will likely ask to go back to visit the elderly person again as long as you facilitate a positive experience for both the child and adult. Take them back often, and you will find that you soon have to stop putting any effort into helping the child relate to the elderly person because they will relate simply as one person to another. Age ultimately isn't that much of a factor in how well people relate to each other.Share
30 November 2016